Break Free From Self-Sabotage and Build the Life You Actually Want - Without Years of Therapy or Complicated Strategies
Discover the same 6-step self-reflection method a professional footballer used to save his marriage, transform his career, and build a life of purpose - now proven to work for hundreds of men ready to stop making excuses and start making real change
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Imagine waking up six months from now and looking in the mirror...
You actually like what you see. Not because you're perfect, but because you're honest with yourself. You know your weaknesses and you're working on them intentionally.
Your wife stops mid-sentence and says, "You've changed. Something's different."
Your kids see you handle stress without losing your temper. They see you make commitments and keep them. They see a man who doesn't make excuses.
At work, you're consistent. Reliable. People notice you show up differently.
When triggers hit - and they will - you pause instead of reacting. You choose the better cycle. Not because someone's watching, but because you've rebuilt yourself from the inside out.
This isn't fantasy. This is what happens when you stop lying to yourself and start using a method that actually works.
The Mirror Formula gives you that method.
Don't spend another year stuck in the same patterns.
Join The Mirror Formula today and start building a life that matches your values - not your excuses.
Meet Your Coach and Mentor
Jerel Ifil
I spent 14 years as a professional footballer - something only 0.01% of boys in the UK achieve. But here's what most people don't know: I was told I'd never make it. I was told I wasn't good enough. And for years, I believed it.
That negative belief system nearly destroyed my career. It spilled into my relationship. It turned me into someone I didn't recognize - aggressive, defensive, inconsistent.
At 21, with a newborn son and a career on the line, I had to make a choice: keep blaming everyone else, or look at myself first.
That decision changed everything.
I rebuilt my career. Played over 40 games a season. Got promoted with my team. More importantly, I saved my marriage. I became the father my son needed. I learned how to be honest with myself without being harsh.
After football, I got a degree in psychology, became a qualified teacher and personal trainer, and started working with vulnerable young people. My business partner and I now run a team of 14, delivering over 400 hours a week of support to children who've been written off by everyone else.
I've seen the same patterns in young people that I had in myself. And I've seen what happens when someone finally has a framework to break those patterns.
The Mirror Formula is that framework. It's what I use. It's what has helped hundreds of men stop making excuses and start making real, lasting change.
I'm not here to judge you. I'm here to help you see yourself clearly - and then rebuild.
When you complete The Mirror Formula, you will:
1 Finally understand why you keep sabotaging yourself - and have a clear method to break the cycle
2 Stop the inconsistency between what you say you value and what you actually do
3 Build habits that stick - not because you're forcing yourself, but because you've changed at the root level
4 Show up differently in your relationships - your partner, your kids, your colleagues will notice the change
5 Handle triggers without losing control - pause, reflect, choose the better response
6 Take full ownership of your life - no more blame, no more excuses, just intentional action
7 Create a sustainable rhythm that keeps you moving forward long after the program ends
8 Become the man you actually want to be - consistent, honest, purpose-driven
Here's exactly what you get inside The Mirror Formula:
6 Comprehensive Video Modules
Module 1: ME - Radical Self-Honesty
Stop putting on masks. Learn to see yourself as you actually are - strengths, weaknesses, and everything in between. Includes detailed worksheet to assess where you're being authentic and where you're performing.
Module 2: INCONSISTENCIES - Identifying the Gaps
Where do your words and actions not align? This module helps you spot the exact places where you're sabotaging yourself - in your career, relationships, health, and daily habits. Includes values assessment and tolerance audit.
Module 3: REFLECTION - Understanding the Root
Go deeper than surface-level problems. Understand why you developed these patterns, what beliefs are driving them, and what unmet needs they're trying to fill. Includes guided reflection prompts and pattern tracking sheet.
Module 4: REFRAME - Choosing the Better Cycle
Map your destructive cycles and build new, constructive ones. Learn to pause when triggered and choose intentional responses instead of automatic reactions. Includes two-cycle worksheet and truth statement builder.
Module 5: OWNERSHIP - Taking Full Responsibility
Go deeper than surface-level problems. Understand why you developed these patterns, what beliefs are driving them, and what unmet needs they're trying to fill. Includes guided reflection prompts and pattern tracking sheet.
Module 6: REBUILD - Creating New Rhythms
Build sustainable habits that reflect who you're becoming. Set up your environment, establish boundaries, and create a rhythm that supports long-term growth. Includes action plan and boundary-setting guide
Plus You'll Get Instant Access To This Bonus Content...
The Power of Presence
Learn how to show up as a man who can be both strong and sensitive - essential viewing for fathers and partners who want to create safe spaces for their families.
Past, Present, Future
Stop getting stuck in the wrong time zones. Use the past as lessons, the present for action, and the future for hope - without letting any of them hold you back.
Brick or Sponge Analogy
Master emotional intelligence by understanding when to protect yourself (brick) and when to stay open (sponge) - a simple framework that changes how you handle every interaction.
Rhythm Plan Bonus
Your personal maintenance system to ensure the changes stick long after the program ends. Includes weekly check-in framework and accountability structure.
3 Progress Check-Ins
Start: Establish your baseline across all life domains
Midpoint: Measure growth and adjust your approach
End: Celebrate transformation and commit to next steps
Complete Worksheet Library
Module-specific worksheets for every stage of the formula
Habit loop tracker - Two-cycle mapping template
Commitment declarations
Total Value: Over £2,000 of personal development work condensed into one practical, actionable system
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What You Get For Your Investment
- Complete 6-module Mirror Formula system
- All worksheets and reflection tools
- 4 bonus trainings
- 12-months access to all course materials
This is less than what most men spend on trying to numb their problems. This is an investment in actually solving them.
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This founding member pricing will not last.
We're limiting the first cohort to 50 men to ensure everyone gets proper support during the group reflection sessions. Once these spots are filled, the price increases to £797 and the live group sessions will no longer be included.
Additionally, the exclusive bonuses (Fatherhood Blueprint, 12-month community access, and 3 months of group sessions) are only available to founding members. After this initial launch, these bonuses will be removed or sold separately.
Strictly Limited availability
Don't wait until you've wasted another year stuck in the same patterns. Join now while founding member pricing and bonuses are still available.
My 30-Day "Clear Mirror" Guarantee
I'm confident The Mirror Formula will change how you see yourself and your life. But I want you to feel completely confident too. Here's my guarantee:
"Go through Modules 1-3 over the next 30 days. Do the worksheets. Be honest with yourself. If after three modules you don't see your patterns more clearly than ever before, just email my team. We'll refund your full investment - no questions asked."
I can make this guarantee because I know what happens when men actually look in the mirror and apply this method. The clarity alone is worth the investment. The only way this doesn't work is if you don't do the work. And if that's the case, you'll know within three modules.
Frequently Asked Questions
| Is this just another self-help course? |
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| No. The Mirror Formula is a working method, not motivational content. You'll get practical tools, honest reflection, and a framework you can use on any problem for the rest of your life. Jerel doesn't do fluff - this is about real change through honest self-assessment. |
| I've tried personal development before and nothing stuck. Why will this be different? |
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| Most programs give you tactics without addressing the root. The Mirror Formula makes you look at why you're inconsistent in the first place. Once you understand the root, the tactics actually work. Plus, you're not doing this alone - the community and group sessions provide accountability. |
| How much time do I need to dedicate each week? |
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| Plan for just a few hours to go through the modules and then a couple more complete the worksheets properly. You can work at your own pace, but the men who get the best results are the ones who commit to consistent reflection rather than rushing through. |
| Is this only for fathers or men in relationships? |
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| No. While there's specific content for fathers, The Mirror Formula works for any man who's ready to stop making excuses and start making real change. Single, married, father, not a father - if you're stuck in patterns that don't serve you, this method works. |
| What if I'm not good at being vulnerable or emotional? |
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| Perfect. This isn't about forcing yourself to be vulnerable with others. It's about being honest with yourself. Jerel comes from professional football - he gets the resistance to "emotional stuff." This is about practical honesty, not performance vulnerability. |
| I don't have a psychology degree. Will I be able to understand this? |
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| Absolutely. While Jerel has a degree in psychology, he teaches this in plain language with real examples from his own life. If you can be honest with yourself, you can do this work. No jargon, no complexity for the sake of it. |
| How is this different from therapy? |
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| Therapy is valuable, but this is a method you can use independently. Think of it as a framework for ongoing self-reflection rather than sessions with a therapist. Many men do both - therapy for processing trauma, The Mirror Formula for practical daily change. |
| What happens after I finish the modules? |
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| You keep using the method. That's the point. The Mirror Formula isn't something you complete and forget - it's a tool you use whenever you notice inconsistencies creeping back in. Plus, you'll have 12 months access and the Rhythm Plan to maintain your progress. |
| Can I go through this privately or do I have to participate in the community? |
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| Many men prefer to work through the modules privately and only join the group sessions when they're ready. You decide your level of engagement. |
| What if my wife/partner wants to go through this too? |
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| The course is designed for men, but the method works for anyone. If your partner wants to join, they're welcome - just know that Jerel's examples and language are specifically tailored to the male experience. |
| Will this help with specific issues like anger, procrastination, or addictions? |
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| Yes - because it addresses the root patterns driving those behaviors. Whether it's anger, procrastination, substance issues, or relationship problems, they all stem from inconsistencies between your values and actions. The Mirror Formula helps you see and change those patterns. |
| I'm worried I'll start this and not finish it like everything else. How do I make sure I follow through? |
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| That's exactly what Module 5 (Ownership) addresses. The fact that you're aware of this pattern means you're already halfway there. The community accountability and group sessions also help. But ultimately, you're right to be concerned - this only works if you do the work. If you're not ready to be honest with yourself, wait until you are. |
This is your moment.
You can keep doing what you've been doing - making excuses, blaming circumstances, hoping things magically improve. We both know where that leads.
Or you can make a different choice.
You can look in the mirror. Really look. See yourself clearly - the good, the bad, the inconsistencies. Understand why you've built the patterns you have. And then, with intention and honesty, rebuild.
The Mirror Formula gives you the exact method to do this. Not theory. Not motivation. A working system you can use for the rest of your life.
Your family is watching. Your kids are learning from you whether you realize it or not. Your wife knows when you're making excuses. Your colleagues can tell when you're inconsistent.
But more importantly - you know.
And you're tired of knowing without changing.
Join The Mirror Formula today. Stop lying to yourself. Start building the life that matches your values.
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